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If you are single and seeking the love of your life, this is the only book you need.

Today there are more single people than ever in history. Over 40 percent of our adult population is single and most of them want to meet their perfect mate.

But dating has its drawbacks and really doesn't work anymore as a way to find relationship happiness, says David Steele, marriage and family therapist, founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute (the first and largest relationship coach training organization) and author of Conscious Dating.

We want to be happy in relationships, but don't know how. The old way of dating and mating simply doesn't work anymore, says Steele, the rules have changed and most of us don'’t know what the new rules are. In searching for love, most singles are using trial and error, flying by the seat of their pants, or following bad advice.

This is not just another dating book filled with tired ideas about how to get a man or woman. Conscious Dating provides relationship information and strategies proven and tested with thousands of singles worldwide from a pioneering leader in the field of relationships. It does not offer manipulative or deceptive practices that compromise who you are, in fact it helps singles celebrate who they are and see being single as an opportunity and not a disease.

This groundbreaking book starts by looking at fourteen dating traps and why dating doesn't work. Then author David Steele delves into the ten principles for conscious dating and how any single can go from dating disaster to dating success! Conscious Dating is destined to change the way you view dating, relationships and, most importantly, yourself. Who are you? What do you want? How can you get what you really want in your life and relationships?

Packed with tips, quizzes, personal stories and real world advice, David Steele shows you how to take a proactive role, perhaps for the first time in your life, so that you can find the love of your life and the life that you love.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 342 pages
  • Publisher: RCN Press; 2nd Revised edition (October 1, 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0975500570
  • ISBN-13: 978-0975500576
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.9 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds

Customer Reviews

It’s not what the author says so much as how he says it.

35 people found this helpful.
 on February 19, 2006
By Not Dottie Parker
This book contains two absolutely marvelous concepts that really grabbed me. The big one was “Be The Chooser.” It’s not a new idea, but it was phrased in a way that helped me understand, very simply and solidly, exactly what it means to be proactive in looking for a good relationship. Another one was the clear explanation of the difference between dating for relationship practice, dating to find a life partner, and the big mistake of “dating to mate.” and how to tell which you’re doing and which you should be doing.

If you’re dating or thinking about dating, this is a "Must Have!"

15 people found this helpful.
 on February 15, 2006
By George Polley
David Steele has written what ought to become a benchmark in its field. Practical, proactive, easy-to-read and jargon free, David Steele helps his readers learn how to identify the kind of people they want to be with, how to weed out bad matches before asking for or accepting a date, and how to become really, really CLEAR about the kind of life partner relationship they want to grow.

Outstanding Book; Terrific Balance Between High Concept and Practical Techinque

14 people found this helpful.
 on February 7, 2006
By StraightRazr.com: A Comprehensive Lifestyle Coaching Resource for Men.
This is the book the dating world has been waiting for. A book that really asks you to answer the simple question – ‘what are you looking for in a relationship?’ Then the book takes you through helpful tips and insights to help you discover and anchor those needs, wants and requirements.

The Guide You’ve Been Looking For

9 people found this helpful.
 on December 18, 2008
By Ronald J. Frederick
As a licensed psychologist, I read many self-help books so I can make informed recommendations to my clients. This is one I’m pleased to be able to recommend. Author David Steele has zeroed in on the most important ingredient necessary to having the relationships and the life you really way: conscious awareness. Steele teaches the reader how to become aware of old patterns of behavior and beliefs that have led to frustration and disappointment, how to get clear about your unique relationship/life requirements, and how to make your desires a reality. Filled with practical exercises to help the reader work toward their dreams, Steele lays out a clear and practical approach to help anyone have the kind of relationships and life they desire. There’s much here to benefit from. Well done!

Psychotherapists, Take Note!

8 people found this helpful.
 on February 13, 2006
By Ilene L. Dillon, M.S.W.
David Steele’s Conscious Dating has the depth and coverage you’d expect from years of research and work with the topic. Having obtained an advanced copy due to David’s appearance on my Internet radio broadcast, I was so excited about it that I purchased extra copies to share with my private practice clients. Everything works better with a system–and this book does system, all leading readers to consciously conduct their search for their mate. His section on “Requirements,” exercises to get to know yourself and your requirements better, and warm and supportive understanding of what we all can go through, make this a very valuable adjunct to relationships therapy with singles. There is value on every page. Alone for over 18 years, I gave up on dating after 8 fruitless years! If only I had been able to purchanse Conscious Dating then! Thanks, David, for your careful, caring work. Ilene

Fabulous book for singles and instructors, coaches and therapists who work with singles…

7 people found this helpful.
 on February 13, 2006
By Barbara Elgin
David Steele is the master of ‘telling it like it is’ when it comes to what works for today’s single men and women. You can disagree with what he suggests, but if you take his ideas to heart and use them in your life, I am certain you will find yourself in a happier, more lasting relationship next time around.

Great book!

2 people found this helpful.
 on March 7, 2015
By NaplesCapeCod
This book helped me find my soul mate who I am very happily married to now. The most important exercise in here for me was writing down my “non-negotiable traits”, the personality and character traits I needed in a life partner to be be truly fulfilled. It made me become more selective on what is truly important to me, and not ignore it when any of those essential traits were not present.

Not a bad book

10 people found this helpful.
 on November 19, 2008
By Color Reef
This book is mainly directed at woman around 30+ and more imporantly people that have been divorced or widowed. It has mini stories every couple of pages with real life examples of his teachings as well as exercises at the end of each chapter. Most, if not all, of the examples given in his chapters involve woman, in one case a gay man, that have been divorced or had a bad breakup and their struggles.

You Have to Read This Book!

3 people found this helpful.
 on March 4, 2008
By ministry of the interior
If you want to change your life, find the love of your life and are prepared to radically change the way you date to do so, then you have to read this book! There are a lot of books on the market with similar themes – this one is different as it is very comprehensive, makes sense and it works! If the concepts worked for me, they’ll work for anybody.Though be warned – if you are not prepared to do the work, you won’t find this a quick-fix and you will be disappointed. But if you are through with game-playing, and open to some expert advice, just spend the fourteen bucks, will ya? You won’t regret it!

Excellent book that lays out the steps to dating empowerment!

5 people found this helpful.
 on May 22, 2006
By Michele E. White
Kudos to David Steele! Conscious Dating lays out the steps to move singles from dating bondage to dating freedom! This book is packed with common sense advice articulated in a warm and caring manner. This book empowers singles to “Become the Chooser.”