• Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
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Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world.

In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 300 pages
  • Publisher: Little, Brown and Company; 1st edition (April 8, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 031611300X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0316113007
  • Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 1.2 x 9.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds

Customer Reviews

Reading this book literally saved our 26-year marriage.

21 people found this helpful.
 on February 1, 2018
This book saved our marriage. Seriously, a counselor could only give us the typical tools like “I statements,” forgiveness, etc. but it wasn’t helping. This book taught us to focus on the emotions we were expressing in a way that we gave each other love instead of pouring salt on our wounds. Now, we are in a renaissance, of sorts, very happy and treating each other with the love we need, like when we were newliweds, only better because of our history and experience. Very highly recommended.

Great relationship book but not the most practical

10 people found this helpful.
 on May 14, 2017
By Alexander Zubatov
The ideas in the book seem exactly on target, and the book is well-written. My only criticism is that I think it doesn’t really work as a “how to” guide. The conversations involved seem too tricky and open–that to undertake on your own when a relationship is already in a difficult stage. It feels like you still need a trained therapist to lean on, at least at the start.

"HOLD ME TIGHT" — A Guide to Fulfilling Modern Relationships

6 people found this helpful.
 on November 19, 2017
By Rose
This is a wonderful book my husband and I are using as a guidebook in marriage counseling sessions. Our therapist chose it for its modern, nonjudgmental approach to partners. Honesty, sometimes painful, is the strength of your partnership.

Should be required reading

4 people found this helpful.
 on November 12, 2017
By Mej
This book details why and how our attachment needs for closeness and safety affect our romantic relationship. As humans, we need this emotional closeness, it forms a deep and intrinsic need in everyone. Too often we operate from a place of blindness and in doing so can get trapped in negative interaction spirals. Pulling ourselves and our relationships out of that spiral is a gift of immense proportions. Read the book 🙂

Truly excellent

7 people found this helpful.
 on March 3, 2017
By Joanne Reed
I saw myself and my husband in these stories. I cried reading these, and when he came home, I had the courage to talk about what I need, giving him the strength to talk about his needs.

I’ve read a lot of relationship books. This one …

4 people found this helpful.
 on August 26, 2017
By Mister Moose
I’ve read a lot of relationship books. This one isn’t particularly well-written but the technique (emotionally focused therapy) is highly effective. This is the ONLY book our marriage counselor recommends. It’s made a real difference after 15 years of marriage.


7 people found this helpful.
 on January 2, 2017
By Always a Student
Helped me see my own patterns and more importantly helped me see my husband with more compassion and grace.

Save your Relationship

8 people found this helpful.
 on May 23, 2015
By Judith Patrick
Read this book before her other book “Love Sense”. This is the beginning of EFT (emotionally Focused Therapy) It can save your relationship in 85% of the cases. We highly recommend this book and the second one as well.

This saved my life.

One person found this helpful.
 on July 22, 2017
By Bryan K. Monson
This book should not be listened to on Audio Book. It is meant to be a serious study. I will go back to this again and again. It has helped teach me, and elevated my understanding and truly has saved my future. It is like being let out of prison to see these principles for the first time. I hope to meet Dr Johnson someday. I think there are those few souls who apply their understanding and are given guidance from God to help in monumental ways. These laws of love are needed in our world of chaos and distraction now more than ever. Marriage. Family. These things are eternal, and Sue Johnson’s work supports them in a remarkable way. Thank you, for your dedication and for bringing these patterns and truths to light with so much clarity.

Best conflict resolution book for couples!

31 people found this helpful.
 on August 23, 2015
By Amazon Customer
As a marital therapist, this is the best book I know of to help couples learn to settle down negative patterns. Every couple has that repeating fight….you know– where the subject changes but the fight is the same?—That fight where each person ends up feeling hurt, hopeless, and alone. Finally, there is a book to really explain what is happening at those moments that makes couples feel so stuck. As my husband said, “Where can we get a refund for all the bad marriage counseling we got? This book would helped us so much more!” I recommend it to all the couples I work with to help them learn to communicate in more vulnerable ways so they can reconnect.