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Street-smart and straightforward, Play or Be Played will help you get with a king without being a hoochie, groupie, or a chickenhead.

Got Game? It's a fact. Every woman needs game. Take Oprah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Beyoncé Knowles. All three of these women have the one intangible quality that every mack, male or female, must possess: they all have game. In other words, they have intelligence, hustle, and common sense that they apply to every aspect of their lives — especially in their relationships.

Play or Be Played is an instruction manual for women who are tired of being played by men and who want to be players themselves. Though women may not want to play games, the truth is men often do. So women who hope to win in the game of love must first learn the rules. Bestselling author and true mack, Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed shares:

-ways to spot a scrub
-what it takes to get with a baller
-why men cheat
-how men really judge women
-the top three mistakes women make in relationships

Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Touchstone; Original ed. edition (February 3, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0743244923
  • ISBN-13: 978-0743244923
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces

Customer Reviews

Tariq is a better speaker than writer.

 on July 7, 2018
By Nadia555
I bought this book because I enjoyed Tariq’s podcasts (Mack Lessons Radio more so than Izm). But this book is too commonsensical, and I measure that by the fact that I took very few notes while reading this book. There was just very little useful information here. I did like that Tariq identified that attention is women’s primal need (he claims a man’s primal need is orgasm). But other than telling you to work out, change anything you don’t like about yourself and your looks, to hang out in ‘castles’ (where you’re more likely to meet a king) rather than your local ratchet club, to feed your man and to get a hobby that you’re passionate about, there’s just not a lot of new stuff here if you’re already an avid listener of Tariq’s podcasts. This book would benefit ratchet (F-class, as he calls them) women the most however they’re ofcourse the least likely to read this book. Tariq’s wit zings much more in the spoken word than the written word but it’s still a mildly amusing, solid read. Ofcourse, the game has changed a lot since this book was written (2004); with the advent of the smartphone, social media and the new-normal of the bad economy.

Informative! Highly recommended you read!

 on November 19, 2018
By Briyan
Good insight on males’ perception , general nature and male-female dynamic from an intellectual man’s thoughtful perspective who actually has a daughter. It’s definitely a recommended read for females who intend to be informed, accountable and high-valued women that want to know how to navigate successfully in life & their relationships.


 on September 8, 2018
By Nina Brownstone
I discovered this book years ago, and I became a fan of Tariq Nasheed. I gives helpful information to women having relationship issues, however he talk at a more street level and many people may not relate to this. He should’ve reached out on a mainstream level. But he made some strong, valid points throughout the book.

You Betta!

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 on August 8, 2015
By S. Recole
I LOST my book and can’t freakin find it, but yes it’s true. EVERY LADY, WOMAN, FEMALE and BITCH needs to read this book. It is funny, and it hits home on SO many levels! Even though I can’t find my book, the principles have stuff with me for a lifetime. How to Duck a Sucka is another good “DATING” BOOK to read and so is Why Men Marry Bitches ( ignore the title because it’s not what you’re thinking)

Worked for my big sis

 on January 22, 2015
By Dolemite954
This one was a funny take on what kind of dudes females should recognize out there in the game. I honestly didn’t get through the whole thing but I gave a copy to a chick who was pretty much my big sister that I was stationed with after she got played by some scrub niga. I couldnt violate the guy code & and completely hate on the man but i did give her this book as a reference. She been on her mackin ish ever since.

Refreshing look at men and women

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 on July 27, 2007
By Cheryl Wedesweiler
This book is a straight-forward and honest approach to man-woman relationships. The author writes in a friendly and frank manner. These words of wisdom are offered in a clear, thoughtful, and real form. “The word game in strict terms simply means intelligence, hustle, and common sense. And having game means being knowledgable in every endeavor you choose to engage in.” This book helps a female who makes bad choices in men, become a sophisticated, interesting, and confident woman who is comfortable with herself. The reader is offered ten “Play or Be Played” tips, and also is given ten ways a woman can improve herself-in the form of game tips. My favorite chapter dealt with the types of men: -player -professional -pushover -parolee -the urban renaissance man It was so interesting to find out about the different types of men, and to be made aware of their qualities. The types of women are also displayed. Tips are also offered for a woman to improve her personality. This book/guide applies to all aspects of life. It was entertaining and educational. Here is a link to my book-

Good book, was hard to accept some of the …

 on September 11, 2017
By Quita
Different perspective in dating. Really just makes the woman responsible for accepting the reality of who a man is, and not try to change him because he doesn’t fit your fantasy relationship. Good book, was hard to accept some of the truth, but made me all the more better. Highly recommend.

Become Aware of the Games Guys Play

 on July 24, 2014
By MysficFire
This is a book all we ladies need to read. Unfortunately, many men are untruthful, manipulative and “play” us to get all they can get…while they give nothing. So many of us are unaware that a game is even being played and we get hurt, taken advantage of and feel the fool…over and over again. Wise up. This book provides insight that can help you stop being a victim.