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Street-smart and straightforward, Play or Be Played will help you get with a king without being a hoochie, groupie, or a chickenhead.

Got Game? It's a fact. Every woman needs game. Take Oprah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Beyoncé Knowles. All three of these women have the one intangible quality that every mack, male or female, must possess: they all have game. In other words, they have intelligence, hustle, and common sense that they apply to every aspect of their lives — especially in their relationships.

Play or Be Played is an instruction manual for women who are tired of being played by men and who want to be players themselves. Though women may not want to play games, the truth is men often do. So women who hope to win in the game of love must first learn the rules. Bestselling author and true mack, Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed shares:

-ways to spot a scrub
-what it takes to get with a baller
-why men cheat
-how men really judge women
-the top three mistakes women make in relationships

Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Touchstone; Original ed. edition (February 3, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0743244923
  • ISBN-13: 978-0743244923
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces

Customer Reviews

Tariq is a better speaker than writer.

 on July 7, 2018
By Nadia555
I bought this book because I enjoyed Tariq’s podcasts (Mack Lessons Radio more so than Izm). But this book is too commonsensical, and I measure that by the fact that I took very few notes while reading this book. There was just very little useful information here. I did like that Tariq identified that attention is women’s primal need (he claims a man’s primal need is orgasm). But other than telling you to work out, change anything you don’t like about yourself and your looks, to hang out in ‘castles’ (where you’re more likely to meet a king) rather than your local ratchet club, to feed your man and to get a hobby that you’re passionate about, there’s just not a lot of new stuff here if you’re already an avid listener of Tariq’s podcasts. This book would benefit ratchet (F-class, as he calls them) women the most however they’re ofcourse the least likely to read this book. Tariq’s wit zings much more in the spoken word than the written word but it’s still a mildly amusing, solid read. Ofcourse, the game has changed a lot since this book was written (2004); with the advent of the smartphone, social media and the new-normal of the bad economy. Overall if you’ve listened to the relevant podcasts, you don’t need this book. It reinforces what you already know about stepping your game up and not wasting time on lames. But it’s not gonna change the whole game for you, as it claims it will.

You Betta!

 on August 8, 2015
By S. Recole
I LOST my book and can’t freakin find it, but yes it’s true. EVERY LADY, WOMAN, FEMALE and BITCH needs to read this book. It is funny, and it hits home on SO many levels! Even though I can’t find my book, the principles have stuff with me for a lifetime. How to Duck a Sucka is another good “DATING” BOOK to read and so is Why Men Marry Bitches ( ignore the title because it’s not what you’re thinking)

Good book, was hard to accept some of the …

 on September 11, 2017
By Amazon Customer
Different perspective in dating. Really just makes the woman responsible for accepting the reality of who a man is, and not try to change him because he doesn’t fit your fantasy relationship. Good book, was hard to accept some of the truth, but made me all the more better. Highly recommend.

Worked for my big sis

 on January 22, 2015
By Dolemite954
This one was a funny take on what kind of dudes females should recognize out there in the game. I honestly didn’t get through the whole thing but I gave a copy to a chick who was pretty much my big sister that I was stationed with after she got played by some scrub niga. I couldnt violate the guy code & and completely hate on the man but i did give her this book as a reference. She been on her mackin ish ever since.

Become Aware of the Games Guys Play

 on July 24, 2014
By MysficFire
This is a book all we ladies need to read. Unfortunately, many men are untruthful, manipulative and “play” us to get all they can get…while they give nothing. So many of us are unaware that a game is even being played and we get hurt, taken advantage of and feel the fool…over and over again. Wise up. This book provides insight that can help you stop being a victim.

Approach with an open mind and you’ll like it.

 on October 11, 2014
By Polly
As a woman, I found this book very helpful. You have to approach it with an open mind and appreciate a male perspective on things. I enjoyed it and of course with anything you always use your own discretion because certainly things are not always cut and dry.

Refreshing look at men and women

 on July 27, 2007
By Cheryl Wedesweiler
This book is a straight-forward and honest approach to man-woman relationships. The author writes in a friendly and frank manner. These words of wisdom are offered in a clear, thoughtful, and real form.


 on September 21, 2013
By Empress Candace
As with all his book, Tariq hit some subject that should be common sense to most but (we know how that goes), I enjoyed hearing a male point of view and I see where I made mistakes in my own relationships. I also listen better and look for certain things when I am dealing with the opposite sex; for the most part the book shows women how to appreciate themselves and find value. The book is so good I am rereading it again and I always discuss this book to my girls when relationship issues are a topic. If you have an open mind and willing to hear another point of view then this is a must read!!!

Great book had to buy this book again years later…

 on December 20, 2015
By rel
This is a great book…And this is my second time buying the book its that great….This book is very insightful, honest, and a way for both sexes to correct themselves because we are not made perfect but this book and Tariq’s advise can seriously help you be a better you and you can apply his knowledge to all facets of life…

Read it now and save yourself some heartache!

 on October 30, 2016
By Monica
This book helped me come to terms with my recent divorce, and gave me the tools to truly evaluate what I need and want in a relationship going forward. A must read for any woman who didn’t grow up with a father, how I did, or any woman who didn’t get dating and relationship advice from a stable man in your life. Excellent book!