• ScreamFree Parenting Intro
  • ScreamFree Parenting Hal Runkel on The Today Show
  • Hal Runkel explains Screamfree Parenting on Northern Lights Radio News
  • Screamfree Parenting The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
  • ScreamFree Parenting The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
  • Screamfree Parenting The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
  • Raise Your Kids and Keep Your Cool
  • ScreamFree Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel LMFT
  • Scream-Free Parenting
  • The Neil Haley Show Interview With Bob Duff and Hal Runkel
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You Can Start a Revolution in Your Family . . . Tonight

ScreamFree Parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior . . . for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family.

It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight.

Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents.
If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge.
What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what.

Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that’s inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics. Moving beyond the child-centered, technique-based approaches that ultimately fail, the ScreamFree way compels you to:

focus on yourself
calm yourself down, and
grow yourself up

By staying calm and connected with your kids, you begin to operate less out of your deepest fears and more out of your highest principles, revolutionizing your relationships in the process.

ScreamFree Parenting is not just another parenting book. It’s the first parenting
book that maintains—from beginning to end—that parenting is NOT about kids . . . it’s about parents. As parents pay more attention to controlling their own behavior instead of their kids’ behavior, the result is stronger, more rewarding, and more fulfilling family relationships.

For those of you reading who are parents, know parents, or have had parents, the notion that the greatest thing you can do for your children is to learn to focus on yourself may sound strange, even heretical. It’s not. Here’s why: we are the only ones we can control. We cannot control our kids—we cannot control the behavior of any other human being. And yet, so many “experts” keep giving us more tools (“techniques”) to help us try to do just that. And, of course, the more we try to control, the more out of control our children become.

“Don’t make me come up there.” “Don’t make me pull this car over.” “How many times do I have to tell you?” Even our language suggests that our kids have control over us.
It’s no wonder that we end up screaming. Or shutting down. Or simply giving up. And the charts, refrigerator magnets, family meetings, and other techniques in most typical parenting books just don’t work. They end up making us feel more frustrated and more powerless in this whole parenting thing.

This practical, effective guide for parents of all ages with kids of all ages introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. Well-written in an engaging, conversational tone, the book is sensible, straightforward, and based on the experiences of hundreds of actual families. It will help all parents become calming authorities in their homes, bring peace to their families today, and give kids what they need to grow into caring, self-directed adults tomorrow.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: Harmony; Reprint edition (August 19, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0767927435
  • ISBN-13: 978-0767927437
  • Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.6 x 7.9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 5 ounces

Customer Reviews

Excellent guide to how to become scream free parent

 on January 10, 2018
By Ilana
I never thought that i would be one of those parents that will read a parenting book. I always thought that any self help book is as helpful as sticking to its suggestions- so basically rarely. This book changed my opinion and i am fully converted. I used to get a bit out of hand with yelling and while i never wanted to be that type of parent, there were those bad days when I just reserved to yelling. I knew it was not healthy and i reminded myself of a hysterical neighbor who is one of those extra psycho mother. I had to change asap. Since I read this book, I raised my voice maybe once or twice, and it has been almost half a year since I bought the book, and I am still learning. The main component of the book is to have parents discover themselves and becoming calmer individuals. It is not the book to support the passive parenting style; it is quite in line with being authoritative parent, who enforces boundaries, yet in a calm and constructive way. Basically, by the time you are done with the book, you may feel a bit crappy and feel like a failure, but it is never too late to change. I am 100% committed.

Awesome parenting attitude adjustment!

 on October 14, 2016
By 𝖠𝗆𝖺𝗓𝗈𝗇 𝖢𝗎𝗌𝗍𝗈𝗆𝖾𝗋
This is a great book that has truly changed my perspective on parenting in a good way. It has helped me be a calmer and more effective parent. It’s a great starting point for developing a parenting style, or to refine yours. It doesn’t have a lot of super practical, detailed tips, but that’s not really what it’s for. On the other hand, it does have a few really good practical things, and a really helpful overall message. I highly recommend it!

Life changing!

 on December 2, 2017
By E
My son and I were constantly butting heads. He’s 5 now and it had been that way for a couple of years. This is the first parenting book I’ve purchased and I think it’s the only one I needed!!

Love this book!!

 on May 8, 2017
By Kathryn Sanchez
I read it with a small group of Mom’s at all different stages of motherhood from un-born to toddlers to teenagers to grown kids. Everyone had great insights in to how each topic applies to each age. Light hearted but some chapters were tough to read for emotions sake. Please read it for yourself. My husband and I are going to read it together now.

Sanity saver

 on May 19, 2018
By Grace McTwiddles
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual but it does come with so much unsolicited advice, unhelpful commentary, and headaches. For me this book is indispensable. I’m so thankful I found this book. Being able to read what someone else did that worked instead of getting advice from Great Aunt Impertinence who thinks she knows exactly how to fix what I was doing, was great for my sanity and morale.

This is the best parenting book I’ve read

 on February 3, 2018
By Denver
This is the best parenting book I’ve read. It’s focuses on the parent’s growth and our responsibility to the child rather than for the child. The reprioritization of responsibilities and implementation of emotion free consequences has made life a little less stressful as parents and for our children. I highly recommend.


 on August 25, 2015
By Seeker
This book was excellent. I had several aha moments and I am truly thankful to the author. I have been implementing the ideas for about a week and I am already seeing an amazing shift in the very rocky relationship I have had with my 6 year old daughter. Learning how to not pick up the gauntlet and keep myself calm has changed everything in my home. This is an excellent companion to a few other great parenting books such as Love and Logic and The Child Whisperer. But this one has been key in changing MY behavior.

Good read. And gave some very good advice

 on June 21, 2017
By Jessica Hanshew
Good read. And gave some very good advice. A few of the stories are old school and some of the examples aren’t fully explained. Would be great to hear if the kid kept climbing on the stairs and what was done besides hugs.

Best parenting book ever!

 on September 8, 2017
By scarlet o'hara
Incredible book! Teaches parents how to discipline and guide our children as God guides and disciplines us. There is almost never a reason to lose your temper and how we are responsible to our children for our own behavior. We are not responsible for our children’s behavior and why. Very enlightening book!

Every parent should read this book. This IS the …

 on March 1, 2018
By Edward Ang
Every parent should read this book. This IS the “Parent User Manual” I have been looking for. It does not give you the answers. It helps you understand what is going on and gives you real life examples. It teaches you to fish instead of giving you a fish. You can then apply what you understand to all situations.